Divorcing or separating feels like overwhelmingly adult business, but if children are involved it is very much their business as well. This book is written for separating mothers and fathers, for their extended families and prospective new partners, and for the professionals who support and advise them. Above all, this book is written to help those grownups do better by children. This book is full of ways to minimise the impact of separation. You'll discover - often in their own words - what children of different ages are likely to understand and feel about the process, along with ways to help them cope. There's research to help guide you through those dreadfully difficult decisions about access and custody; information about money and legal matters; and suggestions about handovers, holidays and more. "Mutual parenting," is not easy to achieve, but it is the best possible way forward from family breakdown.