So, What's Your Proposal? by Bill Eddy

So, What's Your Proposal? by Bill Eddy

Complain Complain Complain Have you ever dealt with high-conflict people who blame you or others for one problem after another without taking any responsibility themselves? Don't you feel like wringing their necks?

Instead, consider the simple method taught in this book for getting them out of the past and away from blaming everyone else. Get them to quickly focus on the future, take responsibility and contribute to finding solutions to problems - including those they created themselves or any problem.

When people complain and blame you, you don't need to defend yourself or get angry back. Just calmly say: So, what's your proposal? and focus on teaching the simple 3-step method explained in this book. This method will help you stay calm and confident, while earning the respect of those around you - even those who want to blame you

And blame is abundant these days Every day dozens, if not hundreds, of people confront us at work, at the store, in our communities and online. Nerves get on edge. More and more people get stuck blaming others for anything that goes wrong. With high-conflict people increasing in society, with the 24-hour news cycle, and with Twitter, Facebook and the Internet, we hear constantly about the worst behavior of other people and dozens of terrible problems. The strong temptation is to react and blame others back. However, this just feeds the problem.

This book shifts the conversation from the past and blame, to the future and problem-solving. The book teaches a simple method which can be used by almost anyone. It will help the reader stay calm and confident, while also keeping the focus on solving problems, rather than blaming people.

But it takes practice, which is why this book gives so many examples. The reader will earn the respect of those around him or her. We have seen it happen over and over again - many times in just 30 seconds.

Another helpful tool to communicate effectively with high-conflict people is BIF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People, Their Hostile Email, Personal Attacks and Social Media Meltdowns, also by Bill Eddy.

Bill Eddy is a lawyer, therapist, mediator and the President of High Conflict Institute. He developed the High Conflict Personality theory (HCP Theory) and has become an international expert on managing disputes involving high conflict personalities. Bill Eddy is a lawyer, therapist, mediator and the President of High Conflict Institute. He developed the High Conflict Personality theory (HCP Theory) and has become an international expert on managing disputes involving high-conflict personalities and personality disorders. He provides training on this subject to lawyers, judges, mediators, managers, human resource professionals, businesspersons, healthcare administrators, college administrators, homeowners' association managers, ombudspersons, law enforcement, therapists and others. He has been a speaker and trainer in over 25 states, several provinces in Canada, Australia, France and Sweden.
As an attorney, Bill is a Certified Family Law Specialist in California and the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego. Prior to becoming an attorney in 1992, he was a Licensed Clinical Social worker with twelve years' experience providing therapy to children, adults, couples and families in psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics. He has taught Negotiation and Mediation at the University of San Diego School of Law for six years and he is on the part-time faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law and the National Judicial College. He is the author of numerous articles and several books, including:
New Ways for Work - Coaching Manual: Personal Skills for Productive Relationships (companion to New Ways for Work - Workbook: Personal Skills for Productive Relationships)
It's All Your Fault at Work! Managing Narcissists and Other High-Conflict People
So What's Your Proposal? Shifting High-Conflict People from Blame to Problem-Solving in 30 Seconds
High Conflict People in Legal Disputes
It's All YOUR Fault! 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for Everything
BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns
SPLITTING: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
He is also the developer of the New Ways for Families method of managing potentially high conflict families in and out of family court.
EDUCATION:
University of San Diego School of Law
J.D. received in May 1992 Randolph A. Read Law and Psychiatry Award
San Diego State University M.S.W., Master of Social Work, May 1981
Case Western Reserve University B.A., Psychology, May 1970
PROFESSIONAL LICENSES:
Attorney and Counselor at Law: CA Bar #163236
Licensed by Supreme Court of California (1992 to present)
Licensed by United States District Court (1992 to present)
Licensed Clinical Social Worker: CA #LCS12258 (1986 to present)
PROFESSIONAL CERTIFICATES:
Certified Family Law Specialist, CA Bar Association (2003 to present)
Advanced Mediator, Academy of Professional Family Mediators (2012)
Practitioner Member, Association of Conflict Resolution (1994 to 2010)
Credentialed Mediator by National Conflict Resolution Center
(1993 to present) (Formerly San Diego Mediation Center)
EMPLOYMENT:
PRESIDENT, High Conflict Institute (January 2008 to Present)
SENIOR FAMILY MEDIATOR (January 2005 to Present) National Conflict Resolution Center, San Diego, CA
ADJUNCT FACULTY (2008 to Present)
National Judicial College, Reno, Nevada
ADJUNCT FACULTY (2009 to Present)
Pepperdine University, School of Law, Malibu, CA
Course in Psychology of Conflict, Straus Dispute Resolution Center
ATTORNEY and MEDIATOR
Sole Practitioner, San Diego, CA (1993 to 2008)
ADJUNCT PROFESSOR
Negotiation and Mediation Course, 7 Semesters (1997-2003)
Interviewing and Counseling Difficult Clients Course (2000)
University of San Diego School of Law
PSYCHOTHERAPIST (CLINICAL SOCIAL WORKER)
Counseling & Recovery Institute, San Diego, CA (1987 - 1992)
PSYCHOTHERAPIST (CLINICAL SOCIAL WORKER)
Mesa Vista Psychiatric Hospital, San Diego, CA (1985 - 1987)

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ISBN 13	9781936268627
ISBN 10	1936268620
Titre	So, What's Your Proposal?
Auteur	Bill Eddy
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Type de reliure	Paperback
Éditeur	HCI Press
Année de publication	2014-10-30
Nombre de pages	150
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