Arguing that, whilst saying no is harder than saying yes, it is a vital part of loving relationships, this book examines the developing child within the family and addresses the process of setting limits. The author writes as both a child psychotherapist and a mother, using case examples as well as informal anecdotes from family and friends as illustrations. She believes that, by increasing our awareness of what drives our actions, we gain more choice. Aiming to strip away the negative associations surrounding the word no, she celebrates change and movement as essential ingredients in development.