"This accessible, scholarly book skilfully blends historic and contemporary theories from motherhood studies, and weaves in examples from film to illustrate their resonance in modern times. It provides a comprehensive overview of the concept and the realities of maternal ambivalence and provokes readers to question their understanding so that the notion of its existence can be tolerated and, perhaps, one day accepted. The book is a pleasure to read and will be of interest to motherhood scholars, mothers, and women everywhere." Nollaig Frost is an adjunct professor at University College Cork, Ireland, and author of Practising Research: Why Youre Always Part of the Research Process Even When You Think Youre Not and Qualitative Research Methods in Psychology: Combining Core Approaches
"Margo Lowy takes on the often taboo but essential aspect of mothering in Maternal Experience. Written in an accessible style and using examples from cinema, she illustrates the many forms that maternal ambivalence can take. The idealization of motherhood often leaves many mothers feeling guilt and shame about hateful feelings they experience towards their child, that, somehow, they are failing as mothers. Lowy convincingly demonstrates the normality of ambivalent feelings and how these might become a transformative part of maternal love. With a critical eye, Lowy explores the development of maternal love in the work of Winnicott, Klein and Bion. She encourages us to think and to open a conversation with ourselves and others, which enhances our understanding of maternal love." David Mann is a psychoanalytic psychotherapist in London, UK, and author of Love and Hate: Psychoanalytic Perspectives and PsychotherapyAn Erotic Relationship: Transference and Countertransference Passions
"Thank you for asking me to read your work.it was both a confronting and relieving experience as I again revisited my own mothering of my daughter. My reflections: This is an engaging and well-written book about a topic that needs to be discussed; that alongside loving feelings are hating ones which together with joy, sadness, anxiety, etc form the mosaic of the real experience of the mother. Engaging in all the feelings aroused by becoming a mother leads to the development of a real and authentic relationship between mother and child. The idealisation of motherhood narrows the mutual dynamics between the mother and baby by trying to extrude the mother who has experiences of anger. This desire for perfection disallows the vitality, curiosity and generative energy of a fully engaged relationship! Margo Lowy seeks to find a language of love that includes all these dimensions. This language includes the deep psychic challenges the mother experiences. In creating this new context maternal mistakes are seen as a source of learning and repair so that getting it wrong is as important as getting it right and maternal wisdom is born. Motherhood by instinct and engagement.not by the book.just what the world needs!" Lorraine Rose is a clinical psychologist and psychoanalytic psychotherapist in Sydney, Australia, and author of Learning to Love and From Cradle to Global Citizen
"This accessible, scholarly book skilfully blends historic and contemporary theories from motherhood studies, and weaves in examples from film to illustrate their resonance in modern times. It provides a comprehensive overview of the concept and the realities of maternal ambivalence and provokes readers to question their understanding so that the notion of its existence can be tolerated and, perhaps, one day accepted. The book is a pleasure to read and will be of interest to motherhood scholars, mothers, and women everywhere." Nollaig Frost is an adjunct professor at University College Cork, Ireland, and author of Practising Research: Why Youre Always Part of the Research Process Even When You Think Youre Not and Qualitative Research Methods in Psychology: Combining Core Approaches.
"Margo Lowy takes on the often taboo but essential aspect of mothering in Maternal Experience. Written in an accessible style and using examples from cinema, she illustrates the many forms that maternal ambivalence can take. The idealization of motherhood often leaves many mothers feeling guilt and shame about hateful feelings they experience towards their child, that, somehow, they are failing as mothers. Lowy convincingly demonstrates the normality of ambivalent feelings and how these might become a transformative part of maternal love. With a critical eye, Lowy explores the development of maternal love in the work of Winnicott, Klein and Bion. She encourages us to think and to open a conversation with ourselves and others, which enhances our understanding of maternal love." David Mann is a psychoanalytic psychotherapist in London, UK, and author of Love and Hate: Psychoanalytic Perspectives and PsychotherapyAn Erotic Relationship: Transference and Countertransference Passions.
"Thank you for asking me to read your work.it was both a confronting and relieving experience as I again revisited my own mothering of my daughter. My reflections: This is an engaging and well-written book about a topic that needs to be discussed; that alongside loving feelings are hating ones which together with joy, sadness, anxiety, etc form the mosaic of the real experience of the mother. Engaging in all the feelings aroused by becoming a mother leads to the development of a real and authentic relationship between mother and child. The idealisation of motherhood narrows the mutual dynamics between the mother and baby by trying to extrude the mother who has experiences of anger. This desire for perfection disallows the vitality, curiosity and generative energy of a fully engaged relationship! Margo Lowy seeks to find a language of love that includes all these dimensions. This language includes the deep psychic challenges the mother experiences. In creating this new context maternal mistakes are seen as a source of learning and repair so that getting it wrong is as important as getting it right and maternal wisdom is born. Motherhood by instinct and engagement.not by the book..just what the world needs!" Lorraine Rose is a clinical psychologist and psychoanalytic psychotherapist in Sydney, Australia, and author of Learning to Love and From Cradle to Global Citizen
