Men are not born men - and becoming a man means a hell of a lot more than getting a six pack and an office with a view. Sometimes we all need to rethink exactly who we are and what we want to be.

Deep in post-divorce soul searching, therapist John Kim did just that. He came to an astonishing realisation: he was a miserable f*ck who might just be to blame for the problems in his life. And thus began his reinvention - a period of self-reflection and self-scrutiny. He started to unpack his emotions, his drives, his successes and his failures to help him stop acting like a boy and start living like a man. And this book tells you exactly what he learned.

With his signature no-nonsense approach that will make you laugh and make you think, Kim takes you on a rough and tumble ride of exploration and discovery, creating an essential life plan for change.

He offers simple steps for change: go on `man dates'; don't pee in the shower (even if you think you'll get away with it). And some take a little more soul searching: we are all flawed, not everyone can be a winner - the key is to get to know our limitations and accept them express your f*cking feelings.

Using this range of insights, Kim presents a powerful guide - self-help in a shot glass - covering essential topics from vulnerability and posturing to health and women, allowing all men to walk tall and build a life filled with purpose and passion.