The Secure Self by Stephanie Rigg

The Secure Self by Stephanie Rigg

Heal the unhealthy patterns of an anxious attachment style by rebuilding your most essential relationship—with yourself—in this guide from the host of the world’s leading attachment-theory podcast.

Relationship anxiety doesn’t only surface during conflict. It lives in the waiting, the monitoring, the second-guessing, and the deep exhaustion of longing to feel safe with another person. For those with anxious attachment patterns, connection can feel fragile—something that must be continually earned through reassurance, proximity, or effort.

In The Secure Self, Stephanie Rigg, a relationship coach and host of the world’s leading attachment podcast, On Attachment, offers readers a different path: one that leads not toward fixing their relationships, but toward first building something more foundational—a secure relationship with yourself. Drawing on years of guiding thousands of clients and students, as well as her own lived experience of anxious attachment, she reframes this attachment style not as a flaw, but as a pattern rooted in a deeply human need for connection—one that, once understood, can begin to shift towards something steadier and more secure.

Throughout the book, readers are guided to:

• Understand how anxious attachment fuels overthinking, hypervigilance, people-pleasing, and emotional reactivity
• Build internal safety through self-compassion, nervous system regulation, healthy boundaries, and self-trust
• Navigate dating, relationships, and breakups with greater confidence, clarity, and self-respect
• Create healthier, more balanced relationships from a grounded sense of self rather than fear

Grounded, compassionate, and deeply practical, The Secure Self invites you to stop looking outward for the security you’ve always longed for and to start building it from within—so that love becomes something that expands rather than completes you.

Stephanie Rigg is a relationship coach, teacher, and podcast host specializing in attachment theory and relational healing. She is the creator and host of On Attachment, the world’s leading podcast on attachment theory, with more than 10 million downloads and over 150,000 subscribers. Through her online programs—including her flagship course Healing Anxious Attachment—Stephanie has supported more than 6,500 students and clients worldwide. Her work blends attachment theory, somatic practices, nervous system regulation, and compassionate self-inquiry, grounded in both professional training and lived experience.

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ISBN 13	9781837828340
ISBN 10	1837828342
Title	The Secure Self
Author	Stephanie Rigg
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Binding Type	Paperback
Publisher	Hay House UK Ltd
Number of pages	257
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