After the Affair, Third Edition by Janis A Spring

After the Affair, Third Edition by Janis A Spring

“Full of juicy, concrete advice to heal from an affair.” —Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, New York Times bestselling author of Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs

From a clinical psychologist who served as a clinical supervisor in the Department of Psychology at Yale University, received the CPA’s award for Distinguished Contribution to the Practice of Psychology, and has treated couples and trained therapists for over four decades, this newly updated, award-winning book provides concrete, proven strategies for those who seek to survive their partner’s infidelity and to rebuild the relationship after an affair.

There is nothing quite like the devastation caused when a partner has been unfaithful, making the path to infidelity recovery seem impossible. Hurt partners often experience a profound shattering of their familiar and valued sense of self and fall into a depression that can last for years. For the relationship, infidelity is often a death blow.

This new third edition of After the Affair, Third Edition, with more than 600,000 copies sold, helps guide both hurt and unfaithful partners through three stages of healing: normalizing the crisis, deciding whether to recommit to their partner, and rebuilding trust and sexual intimacy. It includes a new section in which patients ask questions not addressed in previous editions, and the author provides concrete strategies for improving communication in relationships, earning trust, and achieving forgiveness.

This compassionate and authoritative guide provides a roadmap for healing, with actionable strategies to:

• Survive the Initial Trauma: Understand why your feelings—whether you’re the hurt or the unfaithful partner—are a normal response to crisis and learn how to manage the overwhelming emotional fallout.
• Decide Whether to Recommit: Explore your doubts, fears, and ideas about love to make a thoughtful, deliberate decision about your future instead of an impulsive one.
• Learn from the Affair: Decipher the meaning of the infidelity, accept an appropriate share of responsibility for it, and prevent the same problems from happening again.
• Renew Trust and Intimacy: Discover concrete steps for the unfaithful partner to earn back trust, for the hurt partner to open up to connection, and for both of you to become sexually intimate again.

“This new, updated edition of After the Affair is a must for anyone going through an affair, recovering from betrayal, or working with a couple who needs adviceIf you want your relationship to book, buy this book. Her wisdom applies to all of us.” — Tammy Nelson, Ph.D., author of When You’re the One Who Cheats “Dr. Spring possesses a remarkable combination of clarity, wisdom, spirit, and heart. This is an extremely helpful and healing book—a gift to us all.” — Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger “The most comprehensive and balanced book I have ever read on the subject. It is” — Dr. Harville Hendrix “After the Affair is a wonderful guide for couples who want to reconstruct their relationship after one partner has been unfaithful. In clear, sparkling prose, Dr. Spring explains the sources of infidelity and offers sound, sensible guidelines for mending the relationship.” — Aaron Beck, M.D., founder of Cognitive Therapy and author of Love Is Never Enough “For married or cohabitating couples who want to rebuild their relationship after one partner has had an affair, this tough-minded, insightful manual will be eminently practical…This wise book fills a gap on the self-help shelf.” — Publishers Weekly

Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., is a nationally acclaimed expert on issues of trust, intimacy, and forgiveness. In private practice in Westport, Connecticut, she is the author of the award-winning How Can I Forgive You?, The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To, and Life with Pop: Lessons on Caring for an Aging Parent.

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ISBN 13	9780063045293
ISBN 10	006304529X
Title	After the Affair, Third Edition
Author	Janis A Spring
Condition	Unavailable
Binding Type	Paperback
Publisher	HarperCollins Publishers Inc
Year published	2020-10-29
Number of pages	368
Cover note	Book picture is for illustrative purposes only, actual binding, cover or edition may vary.